Are your adult children throwing around the term ‘Nursing Home’? How to get them to stop!

It is a quiet Sunday morning. Your children call to see how you are doing and ask if they can stop by. You are thrilled and say, “Of course! I would love to see the kids.” So they come over, pleasantries are exchanged, and then it starts.

Mom, tell me about your week.

Did you make it to the grocery store?

I see dad’s pills need a refill, who is keeping track of that?

How about I hire you a housekeeper to do some spring cleaning?

You are glad they care but, really. You are an adult they can stop with all the questions. Next thing you know they will be asking you if you took a shower recently. For Pete’s sake! That was a question you use to ask them when they were a kid. When did the roles reverse? When did you become the one needing care? Next thing you know they will be suggesting you move into “the home”.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could avoid these questions all together? There is a solution- and its more painless than you might think. It just requires a bit of self-awareness and a phone call. If you are noticing that you are not as eager to clean the house, do the laundry, run errands, etc. then maybe it’s time to ask for help. We know asking for help is difficult. But ask yourself this, “What’s more difficult- having your children quiz you about your personal hygiene routine every time they visit or finding someone who can not only clean your house but also assist with personal cares?” Why let them beat around the bush when you can beat them to the punch?

So, now that we got that out of the way, how do you go about finding that housekeeper-caregiver extraordinaire?

· You call a home care agency. It’s wise to start asking around before the need becomes urgent.

· Ease into services- start small and you can always increase or decrease as needed.

· See if your friends use a home care agency.

· Google home care agencies in your area.

· Take a look at some websites.

· Call a few agencies and set up some meetings.

We believe that getting to make your own choices about care is important. It is much easier to think and plan ahead about care than to be rushed into a last minute decision when the need is urgent or if/when you aren’t able to make the decision on your own.

At Kore Cares we are passionate about home care and more than happy to answer any questions you may have. Just give us a call. We promise talking to us will be much easier than talking to your kids about your last bowel movement.